The cave that we fear to enter, holds the treasure that we seek– Joseph Cambell

This is one of my favorite quotes by Joseph Cambell. It applies so well to the goal-setting and self-observation journey. Let’s get real for a moment; instead of engaging in self-observation, we prefer to listen to what we want to hear. It’s harder for us to remain in the present. We always want to return to a place where everything feels comfortable and familiar. We wish to live in the momentary feel-good moment of hearing what we want to hear, rather than entering the dark place of uncertainty. But when we push ourselves into those discovery places and practice self-observation as an awareness technique, focusing on ourselves and objectively observing our thoughts, feelings, and behavior, we reach a level of breakthrough, freedom, and unparalleled success. Those are the true treasures that we all seek.

At the core of what motivates and drives me to do what I do is the desire, or rather the passion to increase self-awareness, especially when it comes to the goal setting process. Self awareness is our ability to know ourselves from the inside out. In goal setting and life in general, self observation is a vital skill that accelerates success, it helps us prevent conflict, and overall improves efficiency, productivity and positive outcome. It helps us gain clarity on what causes our reactions, feeling emotions, but also provides a deep insight into the why these reactions are caused.  That’s why developing the skill of self observation is so important, so let’s dive in and discover ways that help you practice self observation.


Self-observation is a valuable skill in the goal-setting process. It involves introspection, self-awareness, and reflection on your thoughts, actions, and behaviors. By understanding yourself better, you can set more meaningful and achievable goals.

Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to start self-observation for the goal-setting:

  1. Define Your Why: Understand why you want to begin this goal-setting process. What do you hope to achieve through self-observation and goal setting? Having a clear purpose will motivate you to engage in this practice.
  2. Choose Key Areas: Determine the specific aspects of your life that you want to observe and set goals for. These could be related to personal development, career, health, relationships, or any other relevant area. Learn more about your Four areas of Internal IQ by clicking the link.
  3. Set Goals for Self-Observation: Before setting broader goals in your chosen areas, set goals specifically for self-observation. For instance, you might aim to observe your daily habits, thought patterns, emotional responses, and interactions with others.
  4. Create an Observation Routine: Establish a regular routine for self-observation. This could involve setting aside a specific time each day for reflection, journaling, or meditation. Consistency is key to building this practice into your routine.
  5. Journaling: Keep a journal where you record your observations. Write about your thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and experiences throughout the day. This can help you identify patterns and gain insights into areas that might need improvement.
  6. Ask Reflective Questions: During your self-observation time, ask yourself reflective questions such as:
    • What are my strengths and weaknesses in this area?
    • What triggers certain behaviors or emotions?
    • What obstacles or challenges am I facing?
    • How do my actions align with my values and long-term goals?
  7. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness involves being fully present in the moment without judgment. Practicing mindfulness can help you observe your thoughts and feelings without getting caught up in them. This can lead to better self-awareness.
  8. Seek Feedback: Sometimes, the way we perceive ourselves might differ from how others perceive us. Seek constructive feedback from trusted friends, mentors, or colleagues. Their insights can provide valuable perspectives for self-improvement.
  9. Identify Patterns and Trends: As you consistently observe yourself, start identifying patterns, trends, and areas that need improvement. Look for recurring behaviors or habits that might be hindering your progress.
  10. Set SMART Goals: Based on your observations, set SMART goals—Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. Make sure your goals align with your observations and address the areas you want to improve.
  11. Monitor Your Progress: Regularly review your journal entries and track your progress towards your goals. Celebrate your successes and adjust your strategies if needed.
  12. Adapt and Learn: Self-observation is an ongoing process. Be open to adapting your goals and strategies as you learn more about yourself and your behaviors.

Remember, self-observation requires patience and a willingness to confront both strengths and areas for improvement. It’s a valuable tool for personal growth and can significantly enhance your goal-setting process.  Our goal is to help you succeed in your goal setting process. If you want a more guided approach on how to practice self observation check out The Self Observation Interactive Guide. You can use it on your preferred electronic device or you can download it, print it and fill it in by hand.  Still not sure where to start, take our Free Self Awareness quiz below.


Are you ready to start getting to know yourself better and honing your self observation skills. Take this FREE Self Awareness Quiz to help you get started.


How well do you know yourself? Find your level of self-awareness and delve deeper into understanding yourself.  


Looking for a guided approach on how to practice self observation? Then the Self Observation Interactive Guide is exactly what you are looking for. You are looking for a life that is guided by goals. We provide a steps by step we have designed a fill in the blank guided questionnaire that takes you step by step through a self discovery journey into self awareness so that you can hone your self Observation skills and put them into practice in your goal setting process. As you learn to identify your strengths you can put them into practice and make them work for you, as you create awesome, personalized goals.

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You deserve more! You know you are stuck and overloaded; but now what? There is more and you deserve a life were you thrive, feel peace and fluid to live out your best self. This guide is designed to help you:

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I hope that you are enjoying the part one of The Knowing Yourself Series. This is a four-part series where I discuss several methods and strategies on how to begin your self-discovery journey.  If you missed the Introduction STARTING THE JOURNEY OF SELF DISCOVERY be sure to check that out now.
Our goals in this series are:
  • Have a deeper understanding of ourselves.
  • Develop self-love and acceptance.
  • Find inner peace with ourselves.
  • Learn to determine life goals.

Why is this series so important for you? because the dream life you seek is directly related to the choices, habits and the actions that you take now. If you want to maximize your year and make every choice directly correlated to your BEST life, then you need to optimize your goal setting process,  as it is the key to your success. The first step in that process is self awareness.Want to Know more on  Why self awareness is so important to the goal setting process? then click on the link and see the breakdown.


A life without goals is like a race with no finish line; you’re just running to nowhere. That’s because without goals there is no motivation you are simply just drifting in life and in drifting there is no purpose. Moving towards a clear goal can be exhilarating to your life.  Ready to ditch the drifting lifestyle and reclaim your success so that you can live with purpose and be motivated by your goals? … then you are ready to reclaim your success.. here is how.

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Why is self awareness so important to your goal setting process?

Simply put, self awareness is the key stone of emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is the ability to understand, use, manage your own emotions, as well as recognize and influence the emotions of those around you. It’s an important first step in goal setting because it’s literally the heart of the entire process. The way you view life, build relationships, form your habits, set personal goals, all depend on your emotional intelligence. It can also help you to connect with your feelings, turn intention into action, and make informed decisions about what matters most to you.

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Did you know that the Revise Goal Book and Planner starts with a 20 + page spread dedicated to self awareness? The entire goal setting process in this book has been carefully curated to help you set those life changing goals.  We have created a system that will help you, motivate you and even guide you along the way. Start with our informational posts, take the quiz; then check out the Interactive Guides and invest in our Goal Book. We are here to equip you to become the best version of you. That version changes from season to season, but this process remains constant and you can repeat it as many times as you want.