An unexamined life is not worth living – Socrates

There’s a lot of depth in this quote, it means that a life that is not analyzed lacks meaning and purpose.

You analyze your life by doing self reflection, which is the act of looking back without prejudice and accepting who you are and what events have formed you.  It’s learning from and improving actions already taken.  In goal planning, self reflection helps you look back and replay actions and circumstances, in order to help you take note of the things you did right and the things you could have done better.

If you aren’t sure about self reflection or how it can help you get started on your goal planning journey we’re here to help. Below are some tips to get you started.

What do you gain from self reflection?

The benefits of self reflection are many.  It can help you highlight improvement areas, giving you the clarity needed to understand what went well and what went wrong. Self-reflection can also empower you to see un-realized potential by allowing you to go back and consider new opportunities or new ways of doing things you had not realized were possible. It empowers you to make informed decisions. Practicing self-reflection grants you the time to review yourself to take an internal inventory to make informed decisions rather than reactive decisions; this is better choice-making. You can feel empowered/refreshed. Looking back allows you to grow; even while it may feel uncomfortable, looking back on some experiences – especially the challenging ones- will enable you to acknowledge previous actions, learn, and move forward with an empowered and refreshed outlook. Finally, it can help you get out of a rut, get you on track and it can also help you maintain feelings of peace and happiness.

Practical ways YOU can practice self-reflection.

Here is what you can do:

Start with the why.

The practice of replaying your accomplished goals and how you were able to complete them, is so helpful as you embark on your goal-planning journey. Why? because that entire process helps you get to know yourself better. As you learn who you are and how the events that have transpired affected you, you can collect data, analyze it and dream up bigger, better goals. The only way you can get to know your deepest desires and the level of success you are looking for is to learn to recognize the patterns of success and failures from your past. So, in a way, you must look back in order to move forward and create personalized and detailed goals.

Next, GO deeper.

Ask yourself better questions. Skip the superficial, run-of-the-mill questions. It’s okay to journal, “How am I feeling today” or “What am I grateful for” but it’s better to be intentional and vulnerable and ask yourself the problematic/directed questions. That’s when the real growth happens. It’s time to edit the small self-talk and go straight to the root cause, discover patterns of failures so they are not repeated.

Take out time to think about what has transpired and answer better questions.

  1. What is your body telling you right now?
  2. What thoughts are overpowering your mind at the moment?
  3. Why am I feeling this emotional?
  4. What triggered it?  
  5. What were your expectations? How were they not met?
  6. Did you make a mistake?
  7. What went wrong?
  8. Was your first observation correct or did they reveal that something else was going on?
  9. How can I make sure this does not happen again?
  10. What mistakes can I learn from?
  11. What were unrealistic expectations?
  12. How can I get better at adapting to the unexpected situations I faced?
  13. In a WEEK Look back: what things in this situation do you see differently now that a week has passed?
Generic questions are often too general to be helpful. They will only take you so far. You are looking for more in-depth questions to move you in the right direction, promote growth and ultimately help you create more self-awareness. I have made the Self-Reflection Interactive Guide to help you do just that. The guide prompts you to ask better, directed questions and establishes a habit of daily self-reflection. After all, you must make reflection a habit to get its full benefit. It takes work. It takes time. You will identify behavioral patterns as you reflect and write in your journal. These patterns take weeks and months to determine. Therefore, consistency is just as important as the act of remembering itself.

Start reflecting this week, click and download the SELF REFLECTION INTERACTIVE GUIDE today.

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Reflect better! Your goals need a makeover and this guide will guide you in discovering a better and more effective way to self reflect. After all your goal is to reach the level of success you are looking for. There is a better way.  This guide is designed to help you get there.

  • Learn to reflect in order to grow, heal + be empowered to move forward.
  • Prompted/guided reflective Journaling
I hope you are enjoying part two of The Knowing Yourself Series. This is a four-part series where I discuss several methods and strategies on how to begin your self-discovery journey.  If you missed the Introduction STARTING THE JOURNEY OF SELF DISCOVERY be sure to check that out now and be sure to also check out part one: HOW TO PRACTICE SELF OBSERVATION
Our goals in this series are:
  • Have a deeper understanding of ourselves.
  • Develop self-love and acceptance.
  • Find inner peace with ourselves.
  • Learn to ESTABLISH, personalized life goals.

Why is this series so important for you? because the dream life you seek is directly related to the choices, habits and the actions that you take now. If you want to maximize your year and make every choice directly correlated to your BEST life, then you need to optimize your goal setting process,  as it is the key to your success. The first step in that process is self awareness.Want to Know more on  Why self awareness is so important to the goal setting process? then click on the link and see the breakdown.


A life without goals is like a race with no finish line; you’re just running to nowhere. That’s because without goals there is no motivation you are simply just drifting in life and in drifting there is no purpose. Moving towards a clear goal can be exhilarating to your life.  Ready to ditch the drifting lifestyle and reclaim your success so that you can live with purpose and be motivated by your goals? … then you are ready to reclaim your success.. here is how.


Need someone to talk to, bounce ideas of off or get a little help getting started on your goal setting journey? Whether you need help getting started or simply looking for someone to help stay on track, I can help. Schedule a complimentary 30 minute call with me, to see if it’s a fit for you.


Check out our resource library, full of informational Posts, Interactive Guides and Quizes.  All insightfully curated to maximize your growth as a goal strategist.  Ditch the drifting lifestyle and reclaim your success, so that you can live with purpose and be motivated by your goals.


Come gather around the table. Our interactive workshops provide all the materials, the fun and the community you need to get started AND keep you focused on finishing your goals. Check out our scheduled workshop, find which one fits your need and save your seat!  ***seats are limited.

Why is self awareness so important to your goal setting process?

Simply put, self awareness is the key stone of emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is the ability to understand, use, manage your own emotions, as well as recognize and influence the emotions of those around you. It’s an important first step in goal setting because it’s literally the heart of the entire process. The way you view life, build relationships, form your habits, set personal goals, all depend on your emotional intelligence. It can also help you to connect with your feelings, turn intention into action, and make informed decisions about what matters most to you.

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Did you know that the Revise Goal Book and Planner starts with a 20 + page spread dedicated to self awareness? The entire goal setting process in this book has been carefully curated to help you set those life changing goals.  We have created a system that will help you, motivate you and even guide you along the way. Start with our informational posts, take the quiz; then check out the Interactive Guides and invest in our Goal Book. We are here to equip you to become the best version of you. That version changes from season to season, but this process remains constant and you can repeat it as many times as you want.

Want a little more help? Ready to start your self discovery journey? We’ve got you covered.